Tuesday, 22 August 2006

Does anybody want us?

Ok, here is the bottom line - I am pregnant and the way these things work, I am going to be having a baby. I am, in fact, going to be giving birth to a baby. I have heard, seen, not want to really think about it right now that child birth can be a tad painful and tricking and having assistance from someone who has assisted others in the past is a good thing to have.

Well, after the last obstetrician appointment (see previous post) i went back to my doctor and got a referral to a new obs.

He was nice, polite, made us feel comfortable, explained things fully, including why he did not think that we should be coming back to him!!!

Since my last little obs encounter i have had BORDERLINE high blood pressure, and despite what some people say, stress does play a part in that. And this new obs took great lengths to explain this condition that he seemed to believe i was at great risk of developing and because of this i would be turned away from the hospital we are booked into and be sent elsewhere. So it was in my best interest to go to this other hospital now and save having to be transferred there at the last minute.

When we got home we looked up the condition he was talking about and i have a chance of about 3 - 5% of developing it, which incidentals is the same chance anyone has!

I think he was just fobbing us off because the boys-club that is going on at the first hospital we got into all stick together and if i say i don't want one of their obs, the rest band together and won't take me!

So i called the hospital that he told me to and they pretty much laughed in my face and said that the obs can't just tell me to call them. They will only take me if i am referred by an obs with the results of many tests that prove i am in a high of developing the condition.

So back to my GP i go.

He sent an URGENT fax to the second hospital, explaining my situation and low and behold, the next day they call - need a few more details and they can arrange an appointment for us.

Not sure if the appointment is to do tests to consider me as a patient, or the appointment is to just start seeing me. I will find out today when i call them back!

And on a different note altogether - Peanut now has a Thinkgeek and an Amazon wishlist! See the links and happy shopping!!!

Saturday, 12 August 2006

Second obstetrician appointment...

Had the second appointment with the obstetrician the other day, and it was also the last one with that particular one!

The first appointment i had i found him cold, rough and arrogant. He was no the kind of person that i could ask any questions of - and as a first time pregnoid (that's a word i made up by the way, it means a pregnant paranoid person) i have many, many, stupid questions!

M34tb4LL was not fond of him either, and i think he felt a bit uncomfortable with the way the obs examined me. I know i sure felt uncomfortable

The second appointment we had, saw the midwife first. She was nice, i felt a bit more comfortable and even asked a couple of my stupid questions full well knowing that by the time i got to the obs i would not want to ask them.

Then we went back to the waiting room till the man himself was ready to see us. He walked passed the door of the waiting room and without braking stride called my name. He did not even look up to see if i had heard him - or even to see if i even there, he just said my name and went straight into his office.

ARROGANT

We followed after him and sat down at the desk. He had my ultrasound tests infront of him and he told up that it was all good, very low risk of downs and we were spot on for the expected due date. He then got me to hop up on the bed so he could see if we get to hear peanut's heartbeat. He picked my stomach with the doppler for a few seconds and said he could not find anything but that does not mean anything because, and i am quoting word for word, no paraphrasing here -

"You are fat"

INSULTING

Now i am a rather voluptuous woman, that is true, but sugar coat the lemon sir!!! He went on to say he was not saying that insult me (TOO LATE) but that it was true.

SECOND PUNCH LANDED RIGHT ON TOP OF THE FIRST

Apparently women that carry a bit of extra it can be harder to find bubs's heartbeat. Also at the this stage bubs is still quite low in the pelvis bone and that does shield it from the doppler a bit, and there is no need of concern. That would have been a nicer way to say it. But he didn't. We left his office, went and paid the bill and walked outside - and here come the water works! I am pregnant, hormonal, emotional - be nice to me!!!

I made an appointment with my long time trusted GP for the next day. I also rang the hospital we are booked into and got a list of all the obs they use. When i got to my GP i recounted my story from start to finish, first and second appointment. He listened to it all through moments of head shaking, gasping, and looks of shock and told me to get anyone else that i wanted, he would give me a referral to who ever i wanted.

I did a little research, well, asked around and got stories from people who had been to the same hospital. Then called the obs that seemed to get the best reviews and talked myself into him taking me. I then called my EX obs and told them that i will be canceling all further appointment and i needed to collect all my test results.

Funny, there was no questioning why. The lady taking my call spoke to me like this was an every day occurrence for her.

(: Reggie